Benya, I usually agree with a lot of what you write, but can't say I agree with the "white lie" advice. What makes this lie okay? What constitutes a "white" lie and why are they ever okay (bigger more philosophical question here)?

In what other situation would the correct answer be "to lie"?

Wouldn't this create more problems, when people ask you follow-up questions related to the lie?

I just don't understand this mode of thought. If you were giving up chocolate candy because you wanted to lose weight, would you lie about it?

I feel that if you are lying about the reason you are not drinking, then there is still more mental work to be done to overcome the feeling of being ashamed of it. Why should YOU be ashamed of doing something that is important for your life.

Everyone can do what they want, of course, but I'm just trying to understand how this truly HELPS anyone.

Lies beget more lies beget more lies generally...

Can you help me understand your point of view?